The Cosmic Pep Talk (Extended Remix Part 1)

Those who've been reading this blog for a while might have seen Me make reference to something I've called "The Cosmic Pep Talk."

The CPT comes into play when a submissive feels his or her world spinning out of control, when he or she feels incapable of doing "this whole thing" right, etc. The CPT is summed up in one simple but powerful statement:

Not everything that happens to the submissive is necessarily about the submissive.

Faithfully applied, the CPT works wonders. The submissive, feeling the freedom of knowing that the only thing s/he can really control is his or her effort and not the results of said effort, lets go more and is more fluid, more alive to the possibilites, and ultimately more submissive.

But as with everything, there's more . . . because human nature tends to be acquisitive -- it tends to grab, to pile up, to intensify and magnify. Sadly we don't come equipped with very good filtering mechanisms to accompany that acquisitive nature, so we end up piling up good and bad stuff in more or less equal measure.

Many of us, especially women, have been raised to "take it upon ourselves," to go out of our way to assume the fault, to take the reponsibility for fixing what's wrong, and to look inward first in that pursuit. Among those of a submissive nature that tendancy is often even stronger.

Taking the CPT to heart not only means not letting yourself get too full of yourself, but also, just as importantly, not getting too down on yourself, either. Putting ourselves at the center of the universe or relegating ourselves to the dustbin both amount to the same thing -- namely, making it about us. It never is, at least never to the degree that we, in our highs and lows, feel that it is.

Finding and maintaining that balance is the most difficult, and ultimately the most rewarding thing we can possibly do.