One thing that's tricky, in a room that's at least partially geared towards scening, is balance. That is, the number of Dominants looking to play vs. the number of available submissives at a given time.
There's nothing one can do about it, of course. One never knows who's coming in, or when, or how many.
Then there is the situation we had last night, late . . . three girls, all ready willing and able . . . and a number of Doms . . . but none of Them wanting to play.
A few thoughts on that.
1. Stuff happens. It's frustrating for Me, because I like to see the room active, and for Dominants to make use of the girls that are available.
2. But, OK . . . if it's about the Dominant(s), then what They want or don't want to do . . . is primary. I accept that.
3. But there's a phenomenon I've been noticing, a lot, lately. And that is this tendency for many Doms to be soooo tentative. I am not 100% sure of why this is, but I think it's least partially attributable to the following, in varying degrees:
A. A lot of the Doms seem to want to be "courting" . . . obsessed with not being seen as an HNG or a troller, and going too far in the "nice" direction.
B. A number of the Doms are not really Doms, and are actually looking to submit. This is a very common phenomenon . . . many men, especially, do not want to identify as sub or even as switch. Often a girl will PM Me to report that a Dom is making subby hints to her in PM.
C. Performance anxiety. Some are not confident of their scening technique (or of their own Dominance), and thus shy away from scening in public. Of all the possible reasons this one I can at least sympathize with the most. The girls in #EP are a sexy, talented, creative, lot . . . submissive, respectful, but in need of a Dom/me who's able to match their talent and creativity with His or Her own. And that can feel very challenging, I understand that.
4. In the end, it's all good. Mainly because well, it has to be. As I said I can't do anything about it (other than encourage in My wonderfully oh-so-subtle way lol). And often enough, the balance is good enough. And when the room is crowded but not scening-focused, there are a lot of laughs and insightful conversations.
It works, overall.
3 comments:
Lenora, Please will you give some indication as to where one finds the door (front or back) to your forum? It would be most interesting to attend, given one is welcome.
Englishman
Englihsman: If you look in the Archives . . . there's a post entiteld "Logistics" that tells you everything you should need. All are welcome.
After seeing these comments, i copied Mistress' "Logistics" post to the website. You can find it at http://www.ratemydays.com/ep/find_us.htm
i hope this helps.
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