A Post That Made Me Smile . . . And Think

this girl wrote, Friday:

It never ceases to amaze me how a little harshness, a little discipline, a good session, pain, hard work and tender words can change this girl from a screaming she-cat: evil and mean, pouty and jealous, stubborn and angry, to a sweet kitten: soft and loving, pliable and willing, quiet and happy. Thank you, Sir.

I love that post because in a few short lines she expressed something very powerful about this lifestyle: the transformative power of simple things, when done with ultimate focus.

That was the "smile" part. But of course, I'm never (well, rarely, at any rate) content to just smile. I have to start thinking.

The transformative power of discipline is an amazing, beautiful thing. The danger of course, at least to My way of thinking, is that over time, unless One is careful, it stops becoming transformative and thus loses much of its power.

The idea, of discipline, to Me, is that eventually, discipline works so well that it makes itself over time unnecessary. If the aftermath feels "good," in some sense, as this girl expressed, there is always the danger that the bigger lesson is lost, or obscured. (Note: This is not a comment on this girl, but rather a discussion of theory.) If the Dominant is not careful, and if the submissive doesn't understand the bigger lesson, discipline can become something more like a fetish: An activity with predictable antecedents and results, valuable in a sense for its momentary fulfillment of desire, but now devoid of the possibility of imparting and enforcing the bigger lesson.

Again, people will differ as to the importance of that "bigger lesson." To Me, it's overridingly important: My goal is for the submissive to achieve the ultimate liberation of the self by totally embracing her submission. Discipline is a transitory tool that helps the submissive move through various stages to reach the point where obedience is second nature and discipline has made itself obsolete.

Sometimes I think too much, of course. One more burden My girls have to carry LOL.

Thank you, this girl, for a succinct and thought-provoking expression of something important.

2 comments:

JeN said...

Thanks for leaving a comment.
Ah, the transformation from caterpillar into butterfly is always beautiful.

rivka said...

I would be one of those people who lost comments, lol. I was wondering what the deal was. Anywayz, I don't remember exactly what all I said, but I do remember saying that I love your blog for the in-depth posts. Your blog is the perfect mix of personal life and thought world.
It's not full of boring, every-now-and-then posts about every day things, and it's not full of the explicitly sexual that lots of blogs resort to for traffic and readers, but packed with reality and useful information.
Wonderful.